Why Wait... for a better life/career/relationship

Is there something you've been waiting for? Dreaming about? Working toward? Longing for, but for some reason it's just not happening. A better job or career perhaps? You want to make changes but it's.... well.... complicated.

With the pace of life these days, and all the distractions it's way too easy to get sidelined when it comes to making important changes.  

Without a focus on your vision and a clear commitment to taking action steps toward it, another month, year, decade...could slip by.  Maybe you've tried but your attempts haven't worked. 

Read on for tips and inspiration to get moving.

There are many resources available for making changes to achieve it.  If you have been making attempts you have likely come across these. Most involve:

·         Imagining your ideal future

·         Clarifying your vision

·         analysis of your current situation,

·         reflection on what you are prepared to change

·         defining goals

·         making commitments to action steps

·         being held accountable for actions

Still Struggling?

If you are struggling and can’t even get to the vision stage, maybe it’s because you can’t see how to extract yourself from the current situation.  Your vision may be clouded by conflicting needs and wants. When you don’t know how to find the way out you lose hope and your self-esteem may take a beating too.

One client called it a brain tangle that pulled her in different directions, but never forward. Another described it as a cluster of situations that kept her stuck.

Untangling the Mess

For example, when someone is dissatisfied with their career outlook but confused about what direction to take there may be other factors involved. Aside from identifying talents, skills and aspirations, there may be other challenges like a problematic work relationship, or talent that isn’t being recognized. Maybe things at home or personal relationships are complicating the decision making process.    

What’s your biggest challenge?   

Even if it the mass of things you’re dissatisfied with seems overwhelming, you can pull them apart and decide what’s most bothersome. Then you can start taking steps to improve that situation. Although, if the biggest challenge is just too daunting, start with a smaller one first.  Then, as you make progress on it you’ll start feeling better about yourself and the accomplishments you are making.

If you could do something about it would you?

Even if making a change has seemed impossible until now, ask yourself what you would be willing to change.  It might be choosing to stop trying to figure it out by yourself and get help. Maybe you would be willing to share your concerns with someone who could offer a different perspective on the situation. Perhaps you might be willing to examine your beliefs about what is holding you back.

  

Why wait to change?  

Avoidance might seem easier than challenging the status quo or rocking the boat, but really…life is way too short.  Here’s a link to a presentation from a wise spiritual teacher I know called 'Why wait until you are dying?'   

Have a listen. Then if you’d like to find out if working with a coach could help send me a note or call. 

If you don't have time to listen (it's almost 90 minutes) and you know you need to make some changes, soon, contact me.  I'd be happy to talk with you how we can find solutions together.  

Lynne Brisdon, PCC

lynne@livinginvision.com

BC  604 570-0764

WA 360-393-8996